Today i will be discussing shyness and social anxiety. Shyness and social anxiety occurs as a result over excitement in nuclei amygdalae (almond-shaped groups of nuclei located deep in the temporal lobes of the brain in complex vertebrates, including humans). Individuals who are shy or socially anxious typically have an amygdala that are very sensitive (sometimes genetics, or due to the way they were raised) as shown in research primary role is the processing of memory and emotional reactions.
Shy individuals perceive unknown situations as threats.
This feeling of being threatened will be good if you were being chased by a tiger; causing your mind to focus on what will save your life. However, your mind going blank in a very important situation is not ideal.
So to help you overcome this i will be discussing various ways you can overcome shyness and social anxiety.
1. Be Real: first thing is to recognize what is taking place chemically in your brain when you are feeling anxious or shy. You are not abnormal; your brain is just sensitive to new stimuli, causing you to proceed with extreme caution – which usually unnecessary. Just knowing this will help you normalize what’s going on and should help relax you in future situations. No need to be shy or anxious, just know that it’s just some chemicals and cells reacting based on a perceived threat that’s not really there – no need to panic– just calm down and proceed intelligently.
2. Negative Thoughts When you focus on what you could have done better, when you focus on the negative, this will create a cycle of negativity. Don’t think, “Why did I say that?” or "what should i say?" Believe me, everyone says something foolish from time-to-time, however, focusing on the negatives will lead you to believe that you are a person who says the wrong things at the unexpected time; this belief will manifest itself every time and keep re-occuring everytime. Recognize that everyone says something foolish from time-to-time; don’t ponder, move on.
3. Avoid unnecessary Pressure: Unnecessary pressure can create a form of threat stimulus in your amygdalae. Don’t feel pressure to be interesting, entertaining, or speaking out your mind. Just be your normal-natural self. It’s the pressure to be like someone else that create social anxiety and shyness. You have been participating in wonderful conversations in your entire life. Your next conversation in a group or that special person is just one more conversation you will enjoy, you are not required to be the best at your first trial. Just be yourself and speak your mind when you have something to say and if you don’t have anything to say – no pressure; enjoy yourself and have fun.
4. Forget Assumption: Most sense of feeling being judged can create anxiety: Don’t assume that people are judging you. Most people are concerned about themselves and don't even have time to think about what you do or say; they don’t have time to be consumed by your behavior. Always remember this "Everyone is awkward at times!" Believe me, when in conversations, every single person at one time or another does or says something that’s a little awkward. Don’t assume that awkward situations or strange silences are your fault alone. Don’t take responsibility for all the negatives in a conversation, feel normal. Awkward things must happen, there will be silences, that’s part of it; it’s perfectly normal, don’t think it’s not, just keep on being yourself; i mean your best self.
5. A little Silence Will Do you Better: There’s no need to panic in social situations or any situation that requires you to air your views. If someone asks you a question, just pause and listen carefully. Think about the question and then answer it appropriately. Most socially anxious or shy individuals react to questions. They feel the need to answer a question immediately, as soon as the final word leaves the mouth of the other person; they feel obligated to start speaking – but believe me, that's not necessary. When you take time to listen and think about the question and provide answer, you will sound more thoughtful, more insightful, and you will have given more deliberate thought to what you’re about to say. You will appear to have “executive presence.” If you respond right away, it shows that you are not comfortable with silence, but silence is okay. It shows that you are comfortable in your skin. So learn to pause, never panic! Think and gather your thoughts, avoid saying “um” and answer like the intelligent person that you are.
6. Body Language: Try to avoid having the body language of someone who is shy and/or timid. Show confidence!. Stand tall, shoulders back. People will believe the body language you portray more than the words you say! If you look timid, people will believe you are timid and will treat you like a timid person. I hope you will go out today with alot of of confidence and take charge of everything, no more shyness and anxiety. Thank you for reading
1. Be Real: first thing is to recognize what is taking place chemically in your brain when you are feeling anxious or shy. You are not abnormal; your brain is just sensitive to new stimuli, causing you to proceed with extreme caution – which usually unnecessary. Just knowing this will help you normalize what’s going on and should help relax you in future situations. No need to be shy or anxious, just know that it’s just some chemicals and cells reacting based on a perceived threat that’s not really there – no need to panic– just calm down and proceed intelligently.
2. Negative Thoughts When you focus on what you could have done better, when you focus on the negative, this will create a cycle of negativity. Don’t think, “Why did I say that?” or "what should i say?" Believe me, everyone says something foolish from time-to-time, however, focusing on the negatives will lead you to believe that you are a person who says the wrong things at the unexpected time; this belief will manifest itself every time and keep re-occuring everytime. Recognize that everyone says something foolish from time-to-time; don’t ponder, move on.
3. Avoid unnecessary Pressure: Unnecessary pressure can create a form of threat stimulus in your amygdalae. Don’t feel pressure to be interesting, entertaining, or speaking out your mind. Just be your normal-natural self. It’s the pressure to be like someone else that create social anxiety and shyness. You have been participating in wonderful conversations in your entire life. Your next conversation in a group or that special person is just one more conversation you will enjoy, you are not required to be the best at your first trial. Just be yourself and speak your mind when you have something to say and if you don’t have anything to say – no pressure; enjoy yourself and have fun.
4. Forget Assumption: Most sense of feeling being judged can create anxiety: Don’t assume that people are judging you. Most people are concerned about themselves and don't even have time to think about what you do or say; they don’t have time to be consumed by your behavior. Always remember this "Everyone is awkward at times!" Believe me, when in conversations, every single person at one time or another does or says something that’s a little awkward. Don’t assume that awkward situations or strange silences are your fault alone. Don’t take responsibility for all the negatives in a conversation, feel normal. Awkward things must happen, there will be silences, that’s part of it; it’s perfectly normal, don’t think it’s not, just keep on being yourself; i mean your best self.
5. A little Silence Will Do you Better: There’s no need to panic in social situations or any situation that requires you to air your views. If someone asks you a question, just pause and listen carefully. Think about the question and then answer it appropriately. Most socially anxious or shy individuals react to questions. They feel the need to answer a question immediately, as soon as the final word leaves the mouth of the other person; they feel obligated to start speaking – but believe me, that's not necessary. When you take time to listen and think about the question and provide answer, you will sound more thoughtful, more insightful, and you will have given more deliberate thought to what you’re about to say. You will appear to have “executive presence.” If you respond right away, it shows that you are not comfortable with silence, but silence is okay. It shows that you are comfortable in your skin. So learn to pause, never panic! Think and gather your thoughts, avoid saying “um” and answer like the intelligent person that you are.
6. Body Language: Try to avoid having the body language of someone who is shy and/or timid. Show confidence!. Stand tall, shoulders back. People will believe the body language you portray more than the words you say! If you look timid, people will believe you are timid and will treat you like a timid person. I hope you will go out today with alot of of confidence and take charge of everything, no more shyness and anxiety. Thank you for reading
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