15 Keys to Building Incredible Confidence

It takes confidence to hit the bull eye

Confident behavior that results from confident thinking. Confident people are people who are in the habit of portraying confident behaviors. The more you “act” confidently, the more confident you will become. 

The key to overcoming lack of confidence begins with you faking it. You start off  faking confidence, and you actually trick your mind into thinking that you are a confident person. 

 The more you fake it, the more genuine the confidence becomes. 

Thinking confidently is a choice, you can choose to be shy and quiet, or you can choose to be confident and powerful. There are times when you act shy, and there are times when you act confidently and that is nature. But believe me, You are completely in control! 

 Don’t buy into the lie that you are a stranger in a new environment or in front of a large crowd, you must act like you own the place, and the crowd are your students that you are just about to lecture. Acting shy is something from the mind. Yes! You act shy when you want to act shy; when you act shy you are unconsciously telling yourself “Now I’m going to act shy, because I don’t know these people”. You switched on that mode, Stop switching that shy switch; decide that you will be confident when you want to be confident.

Flip the confidence switch, and you will be amazed at the difference. Imagine you are an actor; you have to learn how to turn the confidence on, and turn it off. What does confidence look like? Think of a time when you were confident, either talking to a group, or one-on-one with someone. How did you act? How did you speak? Did you make large hand gestures? The best key to confidence is by faking it till it become natural. Do this by recalling you best moments when you are in charge

That’s what confidence looks like on you; now all you have to do is to channel that version of you whenever you want to appear confident, that’s the secret. Below I have documented fifteen behaviors to remind you of what confidence looks like. Remember, when you have confident behavior, that behavior will notify your mind that you are confident. Thereby increasing your confidence, and round-and-round we go, until you have incredible confidence and poise as a result of practicing confident behaviors.

15 Keys to Incredible Confidence:

1. Be Yourself

You often hear people say, “Act like someone else, if you want to appear confident.” I think that’s bad advice; it’s too much to think about. Act like yourself! You’ve been confident before, you know what confidence looks like on you. That’s the confidence that you need to bring to the table. Be your confident self, be bold; don’t make excuses! Remember how you acted when you were confident in the past; turn on that confidence switch.

2.  Expand

Confident people lean back in their chairs, they make large purposeful hand gestures, they spread out their files when in a meeting, they take up space, they don’t have a problem taking up space, you should do the same; don’t shrink, expand to show confidence.

3. Show Balance Posture

Stand tall, even when you’re sitting. A great posture is a sure fire way to ensure that you both look and feel confident. Chest out, shoulders back, and keep your head level: both vertically and horizontally. This will help you to exude confidence. You should walk as if you’re being pulled perfectly upright by a string in the sky (attached to the top of your head).

4. Speak Slowly, and with Confidence

If you speak a million miles/kilometers a second, then it’s hard to sound confident. Confident people take their time when they speak, because they are confident enough to believe that you will wait to hear what they have to say. Don’t rush; pause, take your time, and be relaxed when you speak. You always want to appear to be cool, calm and collected. The more nervous you are, the slower you should speak; speak as if you are talking to a child. Speaking slowly will help you to re-gain your confidence.

5. Pay Attention and Maintain Eye Contact

 Confident people pay attention to others because they are not overly focused on themselves. When you focus on others you will appear more engaged, charismatic and confident.  When you listen to others, with your ears as well as with your eyes, you will be able to ask great questions. Others will interpret your engagement, eye contact, and interaction as pure confidence.

6. Move Slowly

Think of a lion; that slow purposeful movements, with exuding confidence, the possibility lies within you, knowing that you can do what you will. Slow down to speed up your confidence. Don’t be like a roach, panicking at every sudden movement by another; you want to be graceful and elegant. Powerful and mighty!

7. Don’t Fidget

Can you imagine James Bond fidgeting, it’s not very becoming; you want to appear perfectly in control of every bodily movement. All of your movements should be meaningful, they should matter. You must make purposeful movements to appear confident..... To be continued in my next post

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